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New Year’s Resolutions

new_years_resolutions_listRegarding New Year’s Resolutions I have two guidelines.

1) I always resolve to take care of myself. When you are healthy, well rested, enthused, and refreshed, you are more capable, able to give more and function at a high level. You also are taking care of those you love and others with whom you interact on a daily basis by role modeling this valuable behavior.

2) I don’t make any resolutions that I know I won’t keep. Resolving to do something that you know you won’t stick to sets yourself up for failure. This kind of failure is a blow to your self-esteem and self-confidence. The only thing to learn from this failure is not to set it up so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The first time I applied this pearl was in regard to exercise. Each year I tried some new exercise: aerobics, jazzercise, yoga, and others. I never stuck with any of them which only made me feel worse about myself. I finally decided to quit thinking I should, would or could and preferred to make peace with the notion that I wouldn’t resolve to do anything unless I knew it was something I really wanted to do and would do it. When I actually discovered what it is I knew my commitment would be 100%. Eventually I stumbled onto two (ballroom dancingand Pilates) that I fell in love with. That’s when I committed to programs I knew I would keep and did so for years.

Self knowledge and self acceptance are the keys, which means the commitment comes from inside of you and not from others telling you what you should do. Don’t put yourself down for not doing, but give yourself credit for all you do.

You can learn from failure and you can grow from success.